JUSTIFY- Two sides to the story? Chris Ritchey or Lombardi’s Lament

Interesting few days around here – apparently there are two sides and two perspectives to the taking of our closure and ‘JUSTIFICATION’ .

Ok, I am willing to tell the other side from remarks made by the “friends of Angela’s family” in telling of their reasoning and also in the words written by Angela to this family .

THE FRIEND….

Apparently, according to him, the Lombardis ( in particular Angela) were upset as my cousin, who had flown over from England to be with us read a letter at the memorial service from my husband and myself.
( I guess it wasn’t my place to have asked Tony to do that, should’ve cleared with “THE family first”)

I was not at the service, I was taking care of my grandson and my husband who was emotionally and physically unable to attend. This is the “offending letter “
The Unbearable Pain of Being

THEREFORE, according to “the friend” after what happened at the memorial service

“Angela decided to take CONTROL and to exercise her rights as Chris’ wife with the rest of the burial decisions”

Also in a phone call to my son in law the day after the memorial service with regard to “selling Chris 4 wheeler” ( more on that later) Angela stated :

Have you seen the blog my mother is really angry –

this is the post

http://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2009/12/07/my-only-son-chris-ritchey/

Ghost in the Pond- A Koi Story

Since that day that I discovered my Mother’s Day present of last year had survived all the adversity of a Ohio winter and our neglect of him/her I wake each morning filled with trepidation that I will find him /her floating or gone to the bottom. To be honest it think it would put me farther down than I am already.

The other morning , after turning off the waterfall so the pond inhabitants would come to feed, I noticed for once they weren’t interested in food. No! they were up to their “spawning dance”.

The water hyacinths,which haven’t been prolific themselves so far this year ,were being pushed hither and yon as the gold-fish used them as their own personal boudoir. The water iris were rocking with the activity of “fish loving”

The were all at it , toads, fish, birds but the poor lonely Ghost Koi was the only one interested in food. I felt sorry for him/her talk about a spare “fin” at an orgy.

Later in the day as I was at a garden center and all things ponds purchasing the barley straw and more pond plants I spied some Koi. I took a deep breath.

Should I lash out more money on a fish that may not make it, that may introduce fin rot or some other disease?

I don’t have a nursery pond . I saw a lovely Koi, just perfect for my ….OOOPS! what is my Ghost Koi, boy or girl and how do you tell and what if I purchased another of the same sex? That would truly be defeating the purpose.

I came home “Koi- less” but hopeful as one website said that Koi can breed without benefit of Koi! so hopefully he is a he and he can get some “fin action”

The frogs from that Mother’s Day ( at least two of them) so far have made their presence known- unfortunately Misty has now discovered a new game of “leaping frogs” hopefully they will be quicker than she is.