IGNOR(e) (st)ANCE and the Roman Catholic Church – PART TWO

June 24, 2010 at 1:02 am 4 comments

IGNOR(e)(st)ANCE and the Roman Catholic Church- Part One

ED note: You will notice that I refer to the ROMAN Catholic Church. The reason being is that the term “catholic” is all-encompassing meaning :
Date: 15th century
1 : a person who belongs to the universal Christian church.

Both my children attended the now defunct and closed Lorain Catholic High School from the 7th grade through 12. They did not attend due to religious conviction, we are and were not Roman Catholic. They attended Lorain Catholic because it was the only private school hereabouts we could afford. They attended because I was concerned as to the direction Lorain City Schools were heading at the time. I wanted a smaller school atmosphere where there was accountability and a cor majority of parents who were like-minded when it came to their child’s education.

We spoke to both Nikki and Chris as to the religious aspect of the school and what to expect and what was expected of them. They were told to treat the religion classes as they would any other course and if at any time they felt drawn to the Roman Catholic doctrine we would discuss it fully, also that if they felt pressured or made to feel uncomfortable about being non-Roman Catholics we would also discuss that situation.

For the most part things went smoothly with the educational and the religious aspect of Lorain Catholic. There were times when I made my presence known . Father Leo , Father Zingales could attest to that as well as Jim Francis and a couple of the nuns.

Nikki , usually opted out of the religious retreats preferring to take on a community project instead.

Chris also followed suit until his senior year he decided to attend (probably because he was now dating Angela and she was going and he envisioned a stay up all night sort of pajama party atmosphere for two days rather than a religious experience. )

He was in for 30 hours of fasting and non sleep, both of those things were not good for Chris or his mind-set. Chris not eating led to all sorts of fuss and not getting enough sleep well another story . Not eating and lack of sleep are tactics used by the less than worthy in this world.

To reduce a person’s sense of
individuality and confidence even further, physical measures will be employed. Sleep and food deprivation; can be used to render a person confused and weak, and thus malleable

The parents and siblings were supposed to write our positive feelings about Chris which would be read by him at his retreat. We duly followed the orders of Father Giampietro .

The retreat over – a tired Chris – spent the next day in bed recovering from “religion???”.

A few days later, it was a Saturday I remember, Chris was helping his father trim the willow tree- the mail arrived and along with it a letter from our son from the retreat. I have it pressed in a bible. It was the most unfortunate of letters. It was hurtful and questioning us as a family and our beliefs .

Naturally Chris was called down, none too gently, from the tree and asked to explain his most hurtful words.

Oh you had to write something to get the credit….. Your thoughts as to what your family could do better in their religious practices …. it was all I could think to write..I was tired —

and apparently he had some assistance in writing the note….

Oh! Oh were the signs already in place – hurtful notes 😉

I informed my son there was a consequence to each and every action and since he had opened up the can of worms we would now explore it fully. We would explore the Roman Catholic Church and their faith as well as other religions and cult tactics. And if he felt he would like to be a part of any of them we would take the steps needed. He agreed- reluctantly -to this excursion ecclesiastical because the alternative was removal from Lorain Catholic High School.
For the next few weeks the focus of religious history, the role of churches, Popes, Bishops , clergy. The Good the Bad and the Ugly of organized regious beliefs were explored, he had quite an education into all things religious and the whys and wherefores, the who what and when even to why Christmas is celebrated on December 25th.

But first I went to Father Leo De Chant and Father Fr. Giampietro Gasparin, showing them the offending letter and gave them a distinct dressing down (both in writing and verbally) as well as the possibility I would remove Chris from Lorain Catholic and to my reasoning of such a decision – profuse apologies all around but at least THEY DIDN’T IGNORE ME !

After many weeks of the “Discovery and History Channel ” as well as books .magazines and discussions on the subject. etc. Chris came to the conclusion he wasn’t cut out to be a Roman Catholic and wasn’t sure about being a Protestant either.

He graduated from “Religion/ Life /Consequences of One’s Actions Home School 101″ and Lorain Catholic High School.

He decided organized religion was very cloistering and quite frankly he was bored with the subject – he had done his “penance” and learned a life lesson – he never put anything in writing again without giving it a great deal of thought first 🙂 Also by this time was eager to start the LCCC soccer team and move on to college.

Nikki married a Roman Catholic and there has never been any issues.
Chris also married a Roman Catholic and there were issues………….

To be continued………..

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4 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Dawn Becklake  |  June 24, 2010 at 6:58 pm

    You have and did certainly do your homework as regards religion. Having an atheist father and mother brought up with high religious principles (which she did not follow too closely) we did however go to Sunday school – well us first 3-girls anyway! The next 3 went astray somewhat. Now with village life one tends to follow quite good religious paths – 2 children married in church the 3rd and his partner of 15 years still thinking about it! Look forward to the next episode.

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  • 3. thatwoman  |  June 25, 2010 at 8:55 pm

    I wonder if it is the “societal ” aspect of a village that keeps the faithful faithful ? The smallness of community and needing to be accepted as part of village society ? hmmmmmmm

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