DEC 19th- 2009 “The Issue” 2010

December 19, 2010 at 12:44 am 17 comments

Angela (Lombardi) ritchey by CHRIS RITCHEY

It was many months after your callous acts perpetrated upon those that loved Chris- HIS family– that you Angela stated to Chris’s friend-

“Oh there was an issue with the burial”

So our wonderful Chris was now relegated to an “issue” – like what to wear and where to park? As you and yours worried about parking , colour coordinated flowers,and funeral fashion – you and yours denied a grandmother her goodbye:

December 19th-2009 you took from this gentle woman “everything” -and have since “disgraced” a memory of “who Chris was”with your balloons and cake and tacky decoration and acts of “self”

December 19th-2009 the day was wet, dreary and cold, as I remember, when in the evening we were told a burial had taken place. A grandmother’s heart already broken was shattered even further and she wrote that day:

Goodbye – My “luverlyful” grandson – Chris Ritchey

Someone said that you were interred today – I wasn’t told when – your family wasn’t told- I couldn’t say goodbye to what was left of you on this earth as you went back to the earth-surrounded by whom? Another culture – “apart” – from those that have loved you for so long and since the day were born. A goodbye denied to me ! I could not shed a tear at your side or throw you one last kiss – we have been denied but my thoughts of goodbye are for you my “luvleyful boy” are not to be denied

My grandson has died, he slipped out of his flesh and bones into a new frame.

His spirit has passed from here to where? Leaving us full of despair and loneliness.

I look up to the sky , he is there in the twinkling of the stars, he is in every floating cloud in every ray of sunlight.

He is there in the whispering stir of the leaves, the grass under our feet, in the birds dawn chorus and every flower that buds in the spring.

He is there in Misty’s joyful bark and in every breath of air we breathe.

We mourn and long for you Chris – you left us too soon but we thank you for every memory you gave us – locked safely in our shattered hearts – so that none can take them away –

I love you Chris and I am so glad and proud you were my grandson, if just for just awhile.

Love Nana


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17 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Grammy  |  December 19, 2010 at 12:45 pm

    What a wonderful sentiment. I will hold her thoughts within my heart whenever I think about those that have gone before. Thank you Nana for helping me grieve.

    Love and hugs

  • 2. Lisa  |  December 19, 2010 at 2:56 pm

    “Such are the heights of wickedness to which men are driven by religion.” ~ Lucretius

    Much love and BIGHUGs for you and Nana ♥

  • 3. Mary  |  December 19, 2010 at 4:30 pm

    Lisa, these people aren’t driven by religion! That’s a convenient scapegoat! These people are driven by a need to control and to maliciously and with aforethought seek to create pain for anyone who stands up to them! They are so convinced that they are oh so superior and perfect when they lack any basic decency, kindness, compassion or mercy. They are not Christians but devils here on this earth! Bottom line, there’s no excuse for what these people did and they are the dregs of humanity but even then, that is crediting them with any sort of humanity in the first place!

  • 4. Loraine Ritchey  |  December 19, 2010 at 6:22 pm

    “These people are driven by a need to control and to maliciously and with aforethought seek to create pain for anyone who stands up to them”

    They are also naive to think that those actions and the ripple effect of those actions will go unanswered-

    I hope as they “peace be with you” in their various places of worship this Sunday before “Christmas” and they smiled and professed their “christianity” none feel the “talons of cruelty that comes with the grasping handshake of hypocrisy that comes with their touch”

    When “people” deliberately use the most vunerable time there can be – losing a son , grandchild and brother and add the wickendness of deceit and control to further inflame the already unbearable pain- then there is not one shred of common decency or compassion in them——- they are vicious and emotionally bankrupt…… and I will not forget the hurt ALL of them have visited upon those I love the best……….

  • 5. Lisa  |  December 19, 2010 at 8:51 pm

    Their religion is partly to blame, too. It enabled – dare I say encouraged? – them to do everything they’ve done. Most Catholics I’ve encountered are “…convinced that they are oh so superior and perfect …”. They are right and the world is wrong. The Lombardi Family obviously sees nothing wrong with what they’ve done, as it was all done the “right” way in the eyes of the church. With the exception of the cremation, of course. Faithful sheepscibers to their do-as-I-say-not-as-I-do religion to the very end.

  • 6. Lisa  |  December 19, 2010 at 8:52 pm

    oops, that should be “sheepscribers”
    [can you really misspell a made up word? 😉 ]

  • 7. Loraine Ritchey  |  December 19, 2010 at 9:51 pm

    Lisa, even the Catholic Church now agrees with creamation just like fish on Friday which came about due to the argicultural industry taking off in Italy and the fisherman who supported the RC church and the fish industry losing money it was the churches way of making it up to the fisherfolk who supported the church…… ( course there is also that story of the mistress of the pope being married to a fisherman 🙂 – There was also the meatless on Friday because Jesus was crucified on Friday so a tribute as fasting from meat ( course they could have eaten vegetables)

    and honestly for the doctrine of “being in tact for resurrection” that is a falicy- it you delve into what happens during the embalming, see my research on that one ) ( especially if you are autopsied) you aren’t intact…… it does all come down to money, power and who benefits ) –

    Celebrating Christmas on Dec 25th when actually that wasn’t the birth of Jesus- you can google all the documentation- most say it was enough Jesus was born but actually December 25 again it was done to “suit the dictates of Rome)

    For more than 300 years, people celebrated his birth on different days. Clement of Alexandria favored May 20 (c.150-c.215), Hippolytus (c.170-c.236) championed January 2. April 18, 19, May 28, November 17, 20, and March 5 all had backers back in the early days. In A.D. 336, paganism was rampant; Emperor Constantine wanted to change that so he declared Christianity the Roman Empire’s favored religion. In A.D 354, Bishop Liberia of Rome ordered people to celebrate his birth on December 25. This date was probably chosen because the people of Rome already observed this date as the Feast of Saturn, celebrating the pagan holiday “the birthday of the sun.” The winter solstice, another pagan holdover was celebrated a few days earlier than the 25th of December — it actually is the 21st of December, the longest night of the year. So that evening and the next day is celebrated as the birth of the Sun King who returned the light and brought about the end of the cold and darkness. This date made sense to the Roman emperor who wanted to make Christianity the favored religion and to get people to celebrate Christ’s birth; what better way to do it than take over the pagan holiday on that date?

    I agree though the CHURCH of Father Divas and Holy Mary Mother of God Lorain Ohio ENABLED this travestry of torment to happen- it happened with their blessing –

    but who are we those of Chris’ family – nobody- but non catholics- pagans in the eyes of the church???????? Chris mother, father, sister and grandmother uncle didn’t matter we don’t fill the collection plate and bow and scrape at Divas alter of ego.….

    Can you tell I am angry——the anger I felt when I learned what happened with the “fashionistas Sue and Angela” deciding the “funeral fashion” before my son died as his sister was having her last moment s with her brother – disgusts and appalls me …it causes me to be even more cynical with the trappings of church…. especially THAT particular church as they upheld those behaviours …………

    And before everyone runs for cover as the lighting strikes….. and cries of sacriledge – sacriledge is in the eye of the beholder – in my world what they have committed is sacriledge they have gone against the teaching of their own faith.

  • 8. Lisa  |  December 19, 2010 at 10:05 pm

    I didn’t know that the church had come around about cremation.
    Tells you how long it has been since I’ve associated myself with them.

  • 9. Mary  |  December 20, 2010 at 1:10 am

    Lisa, I am Catholic and I’m sorry you feel that way about Catholicism. My faith is very important to me and colors my every day life and I’ve never seen anything such as the antics of this family! As far as cremation goes, I know in Europe, due to lack of space in cemeteries, it is an accepted practice. At least in Scotland. I know that in Ireland, full burials are more the norm. I have my own feelings on burials and what I wish for my own. As far as faith, marriage and burials (or whatnot) I say to each his own. I prefer not to disparage an entire group for the actions of a select few. In the case of this family, I could begin to disparage Italians, Hungarians, Slovenians, Americans or whatever and try to pass it off as a result of their culture. I choose not to do that and prefer to think that it is merely a case that this family, this group of people are completely depraved in their indifference to another’s suffering and are so self-centered that they cannot see past themselves and their own feelings. Sue and Tim Lombardi were only the in-laws (not to belittle their status as Angela’s parents) and should have completely stepped aside to include Loraine and Ernie. I understand that they may try to pawn it off as they were protecting their daughter but they were in the wrong in their actions no matter which way one looks at it. Their actions in particular are completely despicable. Their is no justification for the way the acted. But then, as always, this is merely my own opinion and should be taken for what it’s worth.

  • 10. Mary  |  December 20, 2010 at 1:11 am

    And it should be “there” not “their”. Mea culpa.

  • 11. Lisa  |  December 20, 2010 at 2:53 am

    Mary, please don’t take my comments personally. I respect your beliefs. I was raised Catholic and as noted above, it has been a long time since I have considered myself to be a member of the Catholic church. We obviously have had much different experiences with Catholicism, so let’s agree to disagree on that note, and stand united on the rest.

  • 12. Mary  |  December 20, 2010 at 4:23 am

    I concur wholeheartedly!

  • 13. Loraine Ritchey  |  December 20, 2010 at 9:57 am

    Thank you Lisa and Mary your support has meant a lot to this family –

  • 14. Mark  |  December 20, 2010 at 8:41 pm

    I don’t think religion has ANYTHING to do with what these folks have done. Not one lick. They can try to use it as a shield for their actions, but their actions alone deny any association with anything that Catholicism teaches in the New Testament.

    Never have I ever come across anything as evil and conniving as the Lombardi’s.

    And I pray I never do, because they will not like what I will become to combat that.

  • 15. Loraine Ritchey  |  December 20, 2010 at 9:20 pm

    I agree Mark – I have never found any teachings in the “Catholic” or Christian church that promotes selfishness and pain to a fellow human being. I have always thought the basis of Christianity was LOVE not control However in this instance their Priest enabled their behaviour- all was done with the sanction of their “parish” church. AND it wasn’t as though we ( Chris’s) family were stranggers to this man and his flock……. in my eyes he is not with out blame for promotiong sorrow and pain …….

    I don’t understand it – never will- but I will hold them all accountable…….. and thank you once again for helping me to get through this…….. Loraine

  • 16. Mark  |  December 21, 2010 at 12:59 pm

    Please don’t think I’m excusing or defending the priest, because I’m not. Only Catholicism and what it teaches. They will all have to answer for their actions at some point.

  • 17. thatwoman  |  December 21, 2010 at 1:08 pm

    I kniow that Mark- not everyone practices what they preach 😉
    I guess for me this family “all of them” were such pillars of their respective churches and wore their faith for all to see….. so for them to be so cruel and uncaring which flys in the face of their faith and to be enabled by that church and a man of the cloth in that faith Wellllllllll their actions have caused such anguish and it continues….. as I looked at my husbands face last night as it crumbled into grief once more- and he questions why?

    They have a lot to answer for …………………..

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