Judge Joseph Zieba- Guest Blog- Farewell my Friend
March 6, 2012 at 12:02 am
Original Photo- Morning Journal
ED NOTE: Funeral Arrangements can be found here:
March 2, 2012
My Dear Judge Joe –
You have left our hearts in sorrow, and have gone where I can not follow.
I remember the first time I had met you. It was on the day the John Romoser was going to be appointed Interim Mayor. You wanted to speak that day, and you had a letter in your hand that you wanted to read. At that moment, I told my friend that I had to meet you and to see what it was you wanted to read.( still today, I wonder…what it was that you wrote).
I came to your office and introduced myself, and the rest is history. From that day on we became the best of friends. We would talk politics, and who was doing what and we worked hard on trying to help Nancy Smith get out of prison. Matter of fact, you gave me to read “The Shame of Lorain ” on that very first visit I had with you in your office.
We shared many many conversations over dinner and a drink or two. You always said, “I’ll have what you’re having”.
The stories you shared…there were so many..and often repeated…( I might say…“you already told me that story!”…but I could tell you were having such fun revisiting those memories…I would listen again..and perhaps even recite it with you.
I don’t hardly remember a day that went by that I did not call you, or vise~versa. We went to visit my mother many times down South. You and she had developed a bond. I think she thought of you as an ‘old friend and perhaps even a boyfriend (the gentle soul that you are). You had a way to keep her calm when she was distressed. You also had that effect on me, as I would call you when I felt I had no where else to turn. You always made time and listened patiently. Such a gentle way, such a tender heart, such a joy for life, and friends. And now, you have left us feeling alone, and cold.
You my dear friend, have no idea how many lives you graced. You my friend do not realize how giving you are, and how that generosity changed SO many lives for the better. You never asked for anything in return. You never said “No, I will not.”
I will never look at an ice cream cone the same, or a sun ripened tomato nor a grapefruit. I remember many summer days I would pick you and we would go to “Affduncamps and Kriegs” for basket of ripe tomatoes and baskets of peaches then a large ice cream cone for you and a small on for me from Kriegs.
When I visit mother I will see you in her back yard as to see the grapefruit tree you planted for her…still young now..but bares a few fruit on that fragile young tree. You would go into the garage at mom’s house and stay in there for hours looking at all of my dad’s tools in amazement – that he had that much! “Come on Judge..get out of there it is hot, and time for lunch“..he’d say..”ok..one more minute…wait a minute“…dishes are washed and put away…no Judge.
I don’t know how this night could end in any such way that I will find peace or comfort. I don’t know how tomorrow can come that you won’t be my very first thought for I have thought about you for so many years and days now. I am sorry I could not say goodbye -you were not able to see or have visitors- so I cling on to our last conversations and see you sitting next to the pool at mom’s house, relaxing in the warm southern sunshine, and not having a care in the world.
I am feeling as I have lost a father. I know, I have lost my best friend. I will honor you always, and speak of you more. I hope when you see Ella you say kind things to her about me.. (just now the thunder rumbled)…maybe you are hearing me and seeing the tears stream down my cheeks…and that was your way to say, you are with your wife and everything is ok! Please be ok…and I will try my very best too. I love you always…
Your life is MOST WORTHY OF THE GRIEF I FEEL NOW. I AM PRIVILEGED TO HAVE THIS GRIEF and to honor you….those who do not grieve…do not know you.
With Adoration and love…chop chop!!…
Denise, Mom and Toby.May your wings lift you high
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