APA = ( Love plus Grief )plus 2months = MDD= $?

May 10, 2012 at 11:38 am 5 comments

– a very worthwhile read

I think Dr. Joanne Cacciatore said it best in her Mother’s Day post of 2012


Mother’s Day 2012 is arriving.
With its arrival also the heralding of deepened grief and longing for countless bereaved mothers around the world.

These are mothers who, even decades after the deaths of their children, will weep for their beloved when they are alone- will pace the floors of their homes as their hearts literally ache in their chests- will still negotiate for their children’s lives – will grasp at something, anything in which to believe- and would sacrifice all they are for their children who died.

Grief is not a disease, it is not mental illness, it is not depression. It is, in fact, an expression of love. Grief can only be a disease if love is.”

What is Love??????

My son and I , when he was having doubts as to continuing his relationship with his soon to be wife, discussed love at length for hours one evening .
His question to me that night

what is love and how do you know you really love someone?????

We discussed love, types of love and all its facets. Since Chris’s death I have learned something I did not know about love I do know, now , a mother’s love for her child does not die, does not lessen. A mother does not put the love and loss away to bring it out occasionally. The love is always there and undying love is the definition.

The American Psychiatric Association has been diagnosing those parents who grieve desiring them meet a love/grief litmus time test in order to enable the Major Depressive Disorder label.

have apparently failed a few tests of their own – from the Huffington Post.

Newsflash from APA Meeting: DSM-5 Has Flunked Its Reliability Tests- by Allen Frances

I am one of the ones that have been vocal and as honest as I can be about how this loss of my son, Chris, and this terrible journey, which stops time. Once before my “love” of my son was negated and called into question as I grieved for him . I explored the “note of narcissism” (my own diagnosis of this particular“good Dr.”) in the first Mother’s Day after the death of my son.

I was the recipient of a “note” last month from Dr. Angela Marie (Lombardi) Ritchey DO , it was meant ( in my opinion ) to cause me pain as Chris’ mother. The “note” came through the “mail drop” of my dead son’s belongings– how thoughtful was that? I am not sure why or what purpose she hoped to serve. Her particular mindset is not MY worry.

There was one sentence though that has caused me to ponder the meaning both from the usage of the English language but also the words “your intense love”
The whole sentence reads:“I think your intense love for Chris shielded you from getting to know who he completely was.

I explored that sentence in the rest of the post that Mother’s Day 2010 and ended the post with the following :

What , I wonder, was her “base line” for the definition of my “INTENSE love” I can only wonder if what seems natural to those that love and receive love unconditionally is not always understood by those who may not have had that experience.

What degree a mother’s love and should it be decided and negated by one who has never experienced it?

Cartoon Source http://www.myshrink.com/questions-medications.php

And now other “medical professionals”, those of the “American Psychiatric Association”, seem hell-bent on classifying me and others like me as in dire need of being “fixed” few days/weeks after losing love to death ( to be paid for by insurances etc ). Are we the untapped consumer source?


We should not, ethically or morally, medicalize grief. To do so is to medicalize love. We rarely mourn for that which we do not love

The Touch- Chris Ritchey

Should not the APA just medicate – just eradicate -“Love” because that is the underlying emotion that is the cause of the “afflicton” of all of we who grieve and are then classified MDD. You see Joanne is right those that don’t love don’t grieve- simple fix – get rid of love!

But to those that love and grieve be careful as to the path you choose because being diagnosed MDD can cause a ripple effect that may cause you to be even more depressed as to the consequences of such a diagnosis:

Because a person can be denied private health and life insurance if he or she has been diagnosed with a mental disorder;

Because parents who have been diagnosed with a mental disorder can lose custody of their children;

Because individuals diagnosed with mental disorders can lose opportunities for jobs and often suffer the effects of global discrimination;

Because a diagnosis of a mental disorder stays in your records, despite the fact that many clinicians may not disclose this;

and some of those drugs can be dangerous too –

may well up your chances of suicidal tendency..( although the warnings for increased suicidal tendencies in children and adolescents remain- apparently it is perfectly safe, so they say, for those that are depressed as an adult) I wonder why that is ? could it be that after the first warning labels appeared apparently sales dropped significantly enough for it to make CNN


Should investors forget about the antidepressants? Perhaps the market — estimated at $10 billion — has reached capacity. But how can 19 million depressed Americans possibly be wrong?

“Any antidepressant drug ends up being a $2 billion drug at least, but we’ve seen the depression market really slow down,” said Jon LeCroy, analyst for Natexis Bleichroeder. Antidepressant sales grew just 3 percent in 2005, said LeCroy, down from 4 percent growth in 2004 and 5.5 percent in 2003. “It’s a big, [but] lackluster market,” he said.


ERRRRRRRRR hang on a minute isn’t that the very thing we are trying to CURE… depression and suicidal tendencies????

Show me the money and I will show you the reason for the classification of MDD by the APA – of course I would probably be “pigeon holed” diagnosed with paranoia tendencies due to my “grief” and lacking rational thought

So what do you think? does “classifying yet a another group as MDD” therefore enabling more drugs and insurance payouts benefitting the drug companies. help those that grieve for their child or help “the BOTTOM LINE” ???????


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5 Comments Add your own

  • 1. gramster1  |  May 10, 2012 at 11:08 pm

    Agreed. I was encouraged to accept pharm assistance during my early grief period. I said no thank you. It didn’t feel right, it was like they wanted me to “deny” my feelings. Won’t do that.

  • 2. Brian  |  May 12, 2012 at 11:02 am

    My father was a pharmasist who told me a very long time ago that many doctors write scripts to treat the symptoms instead of the causes of many illnesses.

    People don’t want to deal with the truth many times about the real cause of their illnesses because someone makes a pill out there that will make it all go away. The classic examples are people that are overweight or smoke. Their blood pressure may be too high but instead of telling the patient what the patient really needs to do, loose weight or quit smoking, they give them a script to fill with the implication that their problems are solved. Then when they have a complication from the pill that was perscribed four to six weeks later when they come back for a follow up exam, they write a new script or a script to work on the problems that the old script caused.

    I don’t think it is all the doctors fault, I believe there is some degree of responsibility that falls on them, but the patient demands the “products” they can only get from the doctors or they will seek out and find a doctor that will “give it to them”.

    The drug companies know that this is how the system works, hence, that is why they have so many commercials everywhere to hosting major sporting events. The drug companies imply that they have this wonder drug and run to your doctor and tell him or her you want some of it!

    I am waiting for the drug company that makes Viagra to pay Larry the Cable Guy to change his catch phrase from “Git er done” to “Git er UP!”

  • 3. thatwoman  |  May 12, 2012 at 11:09 am

    Too true and Brian thanks for the smile although shouldn’t it be Git er UP and then Git er done 🙂

  • 4. Brian  |  May 13, 2012 at 2:51 pm

    I had a conversation about this subject yeasterday with someone who used to work in a pharmacy. She was telling me that it would seem that there was a rush in filling Viagra on the weekends by many twenty some year old males.

    I guess this gives a new meaning to what can be considered recreational drug use!

  • 5. Loraine Ritchey  |  May 13, 2012 at 3:09 pm

    Well talk about drug interaction 🙂 maybe they are hoping for the 4 hour erections warned about 🙂

    anyway part of the “spike” in Viagara and such like is due to the fact that those that take blood pressure medications one of the side effects is – “limp love tools” so Viagara is need to – “strenghten the main membe of “the boys” club …… so all you blood pressure on the rise types you better try the diet first….;)

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