August 3rd- Alarming- Chris Ritchey

August 3, 2016 at 10:19 am 4 comments

Photo by  Chris Ritchey  July  12-2007

Photo by Chris Ritchey July 12-2007

It has been a month since I last wrote on this blog- July has come and gone- I dread July because bad things always seem to happen. Your grandfather died unexpectedly in July , ill-health news over the years has been diagnosed in July, and the engagement I wished had never happened – on the anniversary of the day your grandfather died. You weren’t to know that day held that significance as you had champagne and roses sent to the top of the Lorain Lighthouse with the “will you marry me” .

photo Angela  by  Chris Ritchey

photo Angela by Chris Ritchey

It was also the day and weekend I was introduced to avarice and selfishness of the “incoming family” . A cold shiver ran over me that day – harbinger of things to come. I couldn’t believe your “bride to be” and her ” aunts” spent the day and next day touting the engagement ring around to local jewelers to see its monetary worth.

You had paid six thousand for that ring and I ended up having it professionally evaluated by an independent jeweler just to reassure you and the “family” it was worth what you paid for it. You got what you paid for and in fact was worth two thousand more . But what kind of a “bride” does that ? I remember saying to you –

I don’t understand the ring was a symbol of love and not money, I was pleased with a little diamond because it was given in love..

…… but the cold shiver was a warning of what was yet to come.
This July has been no different- little Tetley had to be put to sleep . He didn’t suffer and was running around until the very last.

Artwork Chris Ritchey  Face Book page

Artwork Chris Ritchey Face Book page

Then all hell broke loose and once again ambulances, ICU’s waiting in uncomfortable chairs, watching clocks that didn’t seem to move. The machines, the IV’ fluids, every beep of the monitor, oxygen levels, breathing counts, heart rates, every foot fall of the nurses, the chairs, the smells another two weeks of memories flooding in from the dying days of you , the alarms, doctor’s faces, the looks- you know those looks, this is not good. The tests, the scans the results. The drives to and from the hospital four and five times a day, all those emotions invading my new world of worry- pushing them away in order to deal with the latest health crisis, crippling once again. Walking once again in the early morning across the hospital parking lot- holding ones’ breath hoping the news overnight was positive , crisis in the middle of the night , waiting for the damned phone NOT to ring in the early hours, no sleep, running on empty.
But your Nana picking up the slack at home- 97 years old- and I would come home to a meal, a clean house, my bed made and a cup of tea. Too tired to answer the many phone calls wanting an update.
So went July- and with it another part of me, a another slice of strength and tolerance …….. August…….. your birthday …… and the cycle continues ….. the past became the present and the future counted in days and the time between remains blurred in the moment


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4 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Dave  |  August 3, 2016 at 2:26 pm

    You and your family are in my thoughts!

  • 2. thatwoman  |  August 3, 2016 at 2:40 pm

    thanks Dave been a rough few weeks – including being verbally attacked once again and called horrendous names . more to come on that .love thy neighbor indeed!!!!
    hopefully August will be better

  • 3. Henery Hawk  |  August 3, 2016 at 3:00 pm

    Every time I read something new about that little witch, I find her to be even more evil than before. Thoughts and prayers with you, Ritchie and Mum. Always.

  • 4. thatwoman  |  August 3, 2016 at 3:05 pm

    can’t say I disagree I was gobsmacked cost me $250.00 for an evaluation caused such upheaval because Chris had purchased and designed the ring through a mutual friend …. and she said it was only worth 3,000 and he had been cheated…. caused an issue in the family…… still have those emails sigh but can’t read them too painful

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