April 3rd- FORGOTTEN- Chris Ritchey

April 3, 2019 at 10:31 am 4 comments

In the days and weeks I  have been in this latest medical situation I  managed to  watch a movie – Hunters Lodge– not a wonderful movie but entertaining enough  to  take my  mind off of things. However, the opening lines  resonated with me:

“They  say  you  die three times – once when your body  fails you – again when you  are buried ( funeral) and again when you  are forgotten”

Those were the lines that  set me watching the rest of the movie… I agree with them.   I believe   you  have died twice and in some cases  three times. There are those that  forgot and dismissed you  from memory  in the very beginning of our loss but there are those who  truly  love you  from whose memory  and life you  will not be forgotten.



Gavin, just a few months old when you  passed  and Braedyn  born 3 years later KNOW you,  talk of you  and “remember” not in the usual way of remembering a life  but who  you  are now! You  are still very  much  a part of their lives.

Very  few of my  family  left remember my  Grandmother  “Nanny  Bunyan” and her sons, my  mum’s mother , Nanny  Hines – such  a different person from my  Dad’s mother  not the exotic sophisticated wealthy  red- haired fashion conscious , jewel wearing and Channel  No  5   for her. Nanny  Hines  a nurse/ midwife  mother to  6 – 3 boys and 3 girls and all that entailed, no,  she was warm and loving and gentle .


Soon, those of us that still remember each  of them as they  were when they  were alive and part of our living memory  will also  have passed  and apart from the little bits of information  left in  my  mothers” ” MY BOOK” ( hopefully  passed down to  the younger family  members) we too will die our third death.

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I  have tried to  hold (in the present )  the “man that time forgets” – you- by  keeping your life, your art, your thoughts and our love for you  alive on this blog- archived (hopefully  for  all time)   – and  with  my  own book, when it is completed

and our own  contributions to  the great – what happens after you  die  theories ……


Love doesn’t forget……. and neither do  we

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4 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Robert J. Gargasz  |  April 3, 2019 at 11:32 am

    My Dear Friend
    I read your post with a empathy yet incapable of knowing the depth of your true loss as my sons still live and are by God’s Grace still available to me, my wife and Family.
    Yet you cause me to reminisce on our history with our sons and on their growth and development into young men. Consequently, our aging and expenditure of life and time.
    I for one recognize that you and Ernie have had a positive impact on many people that you have encountered in life that I am aware and that I know. I further know that I have been Blessed to have made your acquaintance and to count you among my friends. I hope this note finds you in good health and allows you to have a heartfelt embrace from a family friend who admires your courage, strength and dedication to your Husband, Son, and Family. Godspeed.
    Bob Gargasz

  • 2. thatwoman  |  April 3, 2019 at 12:59 pm

    Thanks Bob – tough road behind us and one filled with bumps and potholes in front…. this getting old is not “golden” but rusty……. will be in touch

  • 3. maryspringowski  |  April 3, 2019 at 2:07 pm

    Chris is never forgotten.

  • 4. Dave  |  April 3, 2019 at 11:19 pm

    ❤ ❤ ❤

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