NO LIMITS- Nov 3rd- Chapter 10- Chris Ritchey
November 3, 2020 at 1:43 pm 2 comments
No Limits- The book
Forward: https://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2020/01/02/jan-3rd-no-limits-the-forward-chris-ritchey/
Chapter One :https://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2020/02/03/feb-3rd-no-limits-chapter-1-chris-ritchey/
Chapter Two:https://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2020/03/03/march-3rd-no-limits-
Chapter Three: https://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2020/04/03/april-3rd-no-limits-chapt-3-chris-ritchey/
Chapter Four: https://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2020/05/03/no-limits-chapter-4-chris-ritchey/
Chapter Five: https://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2020/06/03/june-3rd-no-limits-chapter-5-chris-ritchey/
Chapter Six: https://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2020/07/03/july-3rd-no-limits-chapter-6-chris-ritchey/
Chapter Seven: https://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2020/08/03/august-3rd-no-limits-chapter7-chris-ritchey/
Chapter Eight: https://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2020/09/03/sept-3rd-no-limits-chapter-8-chris-ritchey/
Chapter Nine: https://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2020/10/03/oct-3rd-no-limits-chapter-9-chris-ritchey/
The Time Between and the 2nd Stem Cell Transplant- Chapter 10
After leaving the Cleveland Clinic on that 1st week of April , our hopes were high. Although Chris looked dreadful the doctors were very pleased with how he rebounded and his body was recovering. The next stem cell transplant would take his level down ( chemically) even farther than the first one. They hoped that this would eradicate any of the cancer cells left in his blood.
The weeks of recovery were rough, he obviously had very little appetite . I would go to his and Angela’s apartment every morning in Cleveland Heights whilst she went to work at South Pointe Hospital . I would stay until she would come home in the afternoon. The rest of my family were having to fend for themselves, I felt very guilty I couldn’t help my daughter more with her new baby. My 90 year old mother was looking after my husband and cooking for everyone.
I would take Chris his food or cook for him during the day. I knew more about where things were in my daughter- in- law’s kitchen than I did in my daughter’s.
I hated all the poisons that were supposedly killing the cancer because I knew they also killed healthy cells and I was scared of the damage that was being done. However, you take the chance that being young your son can overcome and heal. I had said to :
Brad Pohlman, MD, is Vice Chair of Operations at Cleveland Clinic Taussig Cancer Institute. Dr. Pohlman is a member of the American Society of Hematology, American Society of Clinical Oncology, and American Society for Blood and Marrow Transplantation. when we had met with him about the double stem cell transplant”
“What are the side effects or dangers in this and would you recommend this if Chris was your son?”
He smiled and said:
” Obviously I would recommend this procedure and the main issues with the stem cell transplants is that it can cause problems in the lungs, but we can fix that with steroids “
I thought at the time I hoped the risk was minimum as he didn’t seem concerned and we were ready to try anything to get rid of this damned cancer. Still as he mentioned the lungs my chest tightened and warning bells went off again in my brain, but what was the alternative?
The days went into weeks and Chris progressed really well, he got the color back in his face his eyes no longer circled with darkness, he was of course completely bald . He came to Nikki’s one day had his black jacket turned backwards and declared as he came into the room:
He still had an irreverent sense of humour and could laugh at himself and a temper and that calmed me because I knew how he would fight. And so the 2nd stem cell transplant began.
This time they took his levels down to almost zero , it was horrible. He never complained but the pain was excruciating, they pumped him full of drugs and the creamed corn radiated cells, His vision was effected and basically his nails stopped growing for those two days leaving a line where they “died” and then were” resurrected”. His mouth was full of ulcers and his throat. He could only manage water and milk with ice cubes. I had my mother make him his favorite orange whip, with orange jello, double cream and mandarin oranges whipped together.
When he could manage whipped potatoes I whipped them with butter and an egg and cream. Funnily enough he got a craving for Corn Dogs of all things , maybe it was the smell of the creamed corn but much to the annoyance of the “nutrition specialist” I would get him whatever he desired and so corn dogs it was. Eventually , having brought in an electric kettle I could make him tea, the cup that cheers as my mum always said and we would share a cup or two in the afternoon with a few of his favourite English biscuits ( cookies) I am not sure what the staff thought of me but I didn’t care, I knew what he liked and how to make my son comfortable .
I would once again, change the bed, read whilst he slept. and leave about 5 . I rarely bumped into Angela I thought she was working. Apparently, I learned later, she was not most of that time. Yet my son thought she was and felt badly she was working all day and having to come and visit him at night. I am grateful he didn’t know what we now know. Came the day he was released once again !
He had decided after weeks of being in isolation he wanted nothing more than the get out into the outside and breathe the air. He bought a 4 wheeler which he kept at his sister’s , Nikki. They have woods behind their house and every moment he could he would be riding the four wheeler for hours . He loved it and being alone in those woods, free…… !
I had also given Chris my Pontiac Trans Am and he was able to use it as a down payment on a Ford F150 black truck, his father and I made the payments . Chris he was still getting pay from his job and Angela was working but I felt the young couple had enough on their plate so we paid the truck payments and insurance. Fortunately ALL the medical costs were covered under Angela’s Cleveland Clinic Insurance ( all but the parking fees) 100%of all medical costs were covered. The Clinic has some great perks!
Sue Lombardi made a great deal of fuss to people of my acquaintance saying how much everything was costing. One of my friends asked , after having a discussion with Sue, if they could help in anyway with the medical bills. I said what bill? Chris is covered under the Cleveland Clinic they are paying for everything under their insurance. The answer came
” Sue, led me to believe the cough medicine alone was $350.00 you mean they aren’t paying that, why would she lead me to believe they were going in debt”
I said
” Well she is right the cough medicine is $350.00 a bottle but she and her family aren’t suffering any out of pocket expenses for Chris’ treatment, I don’t know why she is telling people that”
A year after his first diagnosis of the Refractory Hodgkin’s – June 2009 – finishing up the tandem stem cell transplants – found Chris given the all clear once again. We celebrated with steaks and good wishes, Chris hosting the barbeque at Nikki’s house inviting the “Lombardi in- laws”.
Luckily for me , my new little grandson Gavin, was fussy so I was able to excuse myself with the baby and spent a great deal of the time trying to get him off to sleep.
You see, I did not have the strength to maintain a façade, I could not look at the Lombardi family without the picture of them in my dream standing around my son’s casket , warning bells kept going off in my brain. Illogical though it was, I could not get over looking at them and seeing the death of my son.
My body and soul were torn between hope, happiness and dread………
To be continued………..
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1. Dave | November 3, 2020 at 4:36 pm
Thinking of you!
❤
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