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January 3rd – cool as- Chris Ritchey

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“Cool as the other side of the pillow” http://www.cheatsheet.com/sports/remembering-stuart-scott-as-cool-as-the-other-side-of-the-pillow.html/

For the past 7 days I have been fighting the gift given to me by my grandsons- they apparently got it from school – however this is turning out to be the gift that keeps on giving . Maybe it is my age or weakened immune system but they managed to get over their gift a lot easier than I am getting over mine.

This means I have had a lot of time to lay in bed , think, dream and ponder life, it also means my guard and “filtering out the bad” is down. As I lay between fitful sleep and coughing, I have taken advantage of the other side of the pillow. Thankfully colder temperatures have prevailed – hopefully that will kill off some of the “bugs” but I have opened my bedroom window to the cold air- which of course makes the pillows even colder. The cool pillows give respite to the fevered brow and bring some relief if only for a little while.

I was reminded , as the years have gone by, since your passing there has been very little relief from the missing , grieving and memories lost. I take relief from grief where I can find it- constantly looking for the other side of the pillow for some relief in my journey.

Unless they have had a similar journey, people cannot possibly understand what this means and how difficult the journey . I know before this happened I , who was usually empathetic ,never fully grasped the devastation losing one’s son , watching the process of dying – by inches- every day causes to one’s life and psyche and I wish I had been able to remain ignorant.

I don’t like being this half person, this wanderer through a world I cannot fathom. Choices are not given, anger and hurt lay just beneath the surface. You do not choose to visit pain and anger but they are intertwined with the memories of you.

artwork Chris Ritchey

artwork Chris Ritchey


But there are people who don’t need the coolness of the other side of the pillow, they carry their coldness with them – That first January
https://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2010/01/03/in-search-of-my-son-and-in-search-of-me/
The coldness of control visited upon this family just days before set me off on a journey of life, death, hypocrisy and love. I watched another mother ” Sue Lombardi”
https://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2010/10/14/an-open-letter-mama-sue-lombardi/
as you died and the relief on her face knowing her daughter wouldn’t be burdened with an invalid.

Sue Lombardi Lorain
This same woman, who complained two days after you were diagnosed with the return of the cancer, phoning me to get the “fundraiser” organized – I remember telling her I couldn’t talk about that – you were in a bad way emotionally that Sunday only to be told ” Well now you know what Angela has had to put up with The Dr. of note at South Pointe Hospital who told Angela – “You have dodged a bullet -( with Chris dying)… and the classic Lombardi quote on the return of the cancer-

I hope this won’t put Angela in debt….

True coldness – immune to human compassion……..”cold cash”

No ! I wouldn’t have wanted to keep you alive with such a terrible diminished quality of life- being blind- bedridden- having to face yet another return of the Refactory Hodgkin’s – you would’ve hated that – I know that your words to me “Don’t let me be pathetic mum” told me more than I wanted to hear – your hope had gone

Still I hear your voice and wish that I didn’t also hear theirs …..

Other self  by Chris Ritchey

Other self by Chris Ritchey

January 3, 2016 at 3:18 pm Leave a comment

December 3rd- End of Days- Chris Ritchey

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I haven’t had the strength of will to write this blog since November 11th. I use this place as therapy, as a way of documenting the rights and wrongs , the history of the place on the planet I find myself on any given day. There are over 60 categories and nearly 1,500 posts since I began in 2008. There are 59 draft posts in waiting….. but I am spent. It will take everything I have to write this post – not to do so would be “giving -up” in my world fraught with conflict.

I am not alone in the terrible place losing one’s son to cancer – watching hourly as life slipped away – the dying days – scared to sleep , scared to leave your son’s side just plain terrified of that day you know is coming when his strength gives out, fighting back those thoughts and ignoring your own eyes as you wait in the hope…. . Helpless as “so called” medical professionals in a teaching hospital used your son as a lab rat, the distancing from reality.
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Then the terrible aftermath – the walking zombie like for days- your brain fighting against reality, not knowing how to function in the world you find yourself – your body trying to recover from the days of hopelessness, the anger toward those that in their selfishness and hypocrisy took away dignity, compassion in their need to control.

Pleased that you have more of your life behind you than in front of you – believing in your heart of hearts you will not survive for more than a few days the terrible gutting pain of grief- how could anyone bear this agony for any length of time ? Grief is a terminal disease of the heart and mind but with any chronic disease one finds ways to deal – some medicate, some use their faith as crutches, some choose counselling , some just exist and wait, some write……..

I have managed to get through your dying days for 5 years- the tricks of the grief trade coming to my aid when in public, the knowing where triggers lay, the avoidance of anyone or anything that can bring me crashing to my knees at any given moment . You deal with the grief of being, crippled , unsure still questioning. You survive the daily onslaught and live your life, not as imagined, but as it is.

artwork Chris Ritchey

artwork Chris Ritchey


Maybe it is because for the first time the days match up with the dates of your end of days– Chris. Starting with Nov 11th – the days leading up to that Thursday of Thanksgiving when a Dr. found me alone in the waiting room to tell me you were dying- the hope on the Friday as the nurse told me

she had no such information and she would have been informed- back to hope

– the dreadfully ignorant people who flocked into that waiting room with their recipes, food and cackle. Looking to your father for strength, he , who was as helpless as I . The knowing I couldn’t physically keep up the vigil I had been keeping by your bedside for the two weeks – the sound of the vent- they visit me waking and sleeping.

Has this change to the cycle added more to my pain and remembering? I do know this year is the hardest yet and unbearable resurgence of the pain of being. . Those first weeks there was the anesthetic of “disbelief” this was happening . , the hope that I would wake from the nightmare and an anger that kept me upright.

Could it be that this “real world” where religious beliefs, differing across the planet, causing more mothers to weep , the zealots crying out once more – “test their beliefs before we show kindness and compassion”

christleadsarmysmall
In a spell-binding speech before a crowd of French knights, Urban exhorted his adherents to win back “the land of milk and honey” and avenge the Turkish atrocities allegedly perpetrated against their fellow Christians. He cited several of the gory details sent to him by Alexius Comnenus and ended by bidding them fight “for the remission of your sins, with the assurance of imperishable glory.” No matter his actual words, “Kill Moslems indiscriminately!” is what the crowd understood him to say and chanted back Deus le vult! Deus le vult!” (“God wills it! God wills it!”)
http://www.usu.edu/markdamen/1320Hist&Civ/chapters/15CRUSAD.htm

http://www.yadvashem.org/yv/en/holocaust/about/01/persecution.asp

four men armed with assault rifles and shouting “Allahu akbar” (“God is great!
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/belgium/12015522/Manhunt-for-Salah-Abdeslam-as-Brussels-reopens-after-Paris-attacks-lockdown-Wednesday-live.html

““You’re a Christian – I mean, you can prove you’re a Christian,” he said. “You can’t prove it, then, you know, you err on the side of caution.”
http://www.msnbc.com/rachel-maddow-show/jeb-bush-would-back-refugees-who-prove-theyre-christian

Have these cries of intolerance, the platitudes spewed in the media and social media brought home the ignorance and hurt caused to your family by those that pray and prey.
https://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2010/12/04/dec-4th-how-cold-is-cold-lombardi/
Those who preach and ignore basic doctrine of human kind. Could it be it has played a part these many “end of days” .
https://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2010/06/28/ignorestance-and-the-roman-catholic-church-part-4/

MASK MIST

What I do know is that for some reason I am “remembering ” hours and happenings that I had pushed into the deepest part of me, they are surfacing and with them the rawness of the time. Could it be I am more able to deal with these memories now, does my body and brain think I am stronger now- it is time for me to “deal” with them as they surface or is it that I am worn so thin in my defenses I can no longer hold them back?

Reaching out in the months after my son’s death, I found others of my ilk and I have borrowed words from one who articulates the grief from a place of knowing… a mother’s knowing …..

” the real horror of this “grief process”…It is not a process at all–it is a state of being; it only looms larger, more all consuming as time passes–not the reverse as we are led (told) to believe. The emptiness more glaring, the loneliness more overwhelming. Who could ever understand the way this nightmare grows and covers everything? Who could even admit this? “

Depths of Despair by  Chris Ritchey

Depths of Despair by Chris Ritchey


I have only been able to write this post in stages, tears blur the keyboard and the screen , I can only hold my breath so long before the welling in my heart is unbearable and the body goes into “save mode” I need to gather strength from your sister and nephews in order to write. I need to see the laughter, the innocence and tangible love that remains…

I love you and miss you Chris with all my broken heart and body……..

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December 3, 2015 at 12:33 pm 3 comments

Politics – Park- Reservation- and a Presidential Candidate

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November 3rd will find the local election upon us- I will be glad when it is over! I suppose the “characters of change” will find something else to rail about subjecting us to their Neolithic form of debate .

I worry for this community, as to the bottom feeding blowhards that have surfaced through the muck and mire of politics. Although, I have to admit some of the you tube antics/ music( music??? may not be the proper description ) and sign placements did give a few chuckles. Pity the characters get in the way of a decent debate ! To be expected I guess, the form of debate around here seems to be of the name calling , concrete and windows type. https://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2015/08/23/hurled-through-the-window-retribution-who-done-it-lorain/
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I was researching through my back hard drives this morning for something I had saved on what is now known as Veterans Park. You see the little park that has witnessed so much

https://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2013/05/08/the-history-park-1812-201-hundred-years-a-recorded-city-park-veterans-park-lorain-ohio/
and barely missed the “wrecking ball” back in 2005 due to “politics” has now been designated a Lorain County Historical Landmark Site .
That little park from whence this city was platted finally has its due!
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The respect for this little green space wasn’t always the case – her story can be found here
https://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2013/08/01/veterans-memorial-park-thanks-for-the-memories/

WoM Logo  by  Scott Baklar

WoM Logo by Scott Baklar


As I researched through those files, I came across a post from the now defunct WoM Blog. https://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2009/07/11/revisionist-history-by-omission/

ED NOTE: I am irritated as I look for items I know were recorded and researched on that old blog – no longer available

. But I did save some things. One such post was written by Scott Bakalar ( and myself) in February 2006, when the then Editor of the Morning Journal John Cole was trying his damnedest to bring senior citizen housing to the little park- he and his cohorts had also tried to give away acreage to the Shawnee and it is all to be found in that WoM post
wordofmouth cole

There is a lot of information in that document , not only about the little park, the wheeling and dealing of politics and a certain Mr. Terry Casey
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Mayor Foltin’s email to Terry Casey 2005

Re: John Cole, longtime editor of the local newspaper. “I feel he should be briefed early (even in the next week or two) with the understanding that we are in very early stages and he will be the first to know if anything happens and when it becomes public,” Foltin wrote Oct. 11 in an e-mail to Casey. “He can personally squash any nay-saying and ensure broad community support.” – PD 3/5/05

http://www.clevelandmagazine.com/ME2/dirmod.asp?sid=E73ABD6180B44874871A91F6BA5C249C&nm=Arts+%26+Entertainemnt&type=Publishing&mod=Publications%3A%3AArticle&mid=1578600D80804596A222593669321019&tier=4&id=2E5CA2B54BA14FAA8895242044261F67


If nothing else works, the Eastern Shawnee could file an aggressive claim for far more land than they actually need for casinos, threatening the state with millions of dollars in reparations. Then, the tribe could drop the claim in exchange for approval to open casinos.

“So the Indian gaming just gives us a few other options,” says Foltin as casually as if he were discussing dinner plans.

You could almost call that blackmail. And you’d think Foltin would worry about losing his Republican allies. He’s not. “The sense that I’ve gotten is that they aren’t mad at me,” he says. “They understand why I have to do this.

ED NOTE: THEY are presumably Republican Foltin’s political party comrades in arms! I didn’t and never will understand why this community spent hundreds of thousands of dollars to try to become a “reservation” but apparently the politicians understood!

WoM Logo  by  Scott Baklar

WoM Logo by Scott Baklar

Starting off a firestorm of wheeling, dealing, controversy and spending of taxpayer’s money. The fact that National Capital One (in whose direction we were pointed) and Terry Casey, spokesperson for National Capital One who had a less than a sterling reputation was never mentioned in the editorial. In fact although Dayton, Cleveland newspapers carried the story of Casey’s “faux paux” I could never find mention of that fact in any of Cole’s Editorials. The fact that National Capital One has pleaded guilty to securities fraud has not had any mention in any editorial I have seen since. And oh yes! the very person to whom Cole’s ability to “squash” was touted was that same Terry Casey in the infamous e-mail from Mayor Foltin.

Now Mr. Casey whose past in my opinion was iffy certainly
casey, terry l – Columbus News Index http://www.columbuslibrary.org

Mr. Casey was the executive director of the Franklin County Republican Party when he fell on his sword and took the blame for a system that laundered campaign contributions and went on to be investigated by two elections agencies.

went on to bigger and greater things –

http://www.plunderbund.com/2015/05/11/kasich-self-starter-political-operative-agency-appointee-terry-casey-breaks-bad-again/
he was appointed by {our} Ohio Governor Kasich ” For a self-described long-time Republican operative and self-starter like Terry L. Casey, who Gov. Kasich appointed soon after he was sworn-in to lead the state’s Employee Relations Board at a yearly salary of $66,997

caused some further issues

Governor_John_Kasich

Mr. Casey’s filing on May 12, 2014 with the Ohio Ethics Commission lists sources of income that include The Ohio Republican Party, Summit County Republican Party, State of Ohio and Simon Tanger, developers behind the Delaware County outlet mall. Those familiar with Gov. Kasich and his brand of take-no-prisoners politics, understand exactly why he would hire public officials with prior conviction records like Matt Borges and Terry Casey. They’ll do the dirty work.

GOP consultant Terry Casey denies plotting with Kasich against Libertarian challenger
http://www.dispatch.com/content/stories/local/2014/09/30/gop-consultant-terry-casey-denies-plotting-with-kasich-against-libertarian.html
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Hopefully, Gov. Kasich, who is running as a Republican for the President of the United States, looks into the history of his appointees a little closer- should he succeed! Mr. Casey , for one, cost this community a great deal of money and polarized a community – along with the politics and press of the day .

Let the political rhetoric begin a new for November 2016 – but I for one will be glad when Tuesday in Lorain has come and gone!!!!

Yes! the seething, rotting, writhing , distorted views of political pundits comes and goes but a little park survives– hopefully so will the voters sanity – although I must say some seem to have lost it already- their sanity that is ;)

Washinton ave park one

October 31, 2015 at 3:42 pm Leave a comment

Housing Court and You – Lorain- Continued

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As promised, a continuation of Lorain’s Housing Court.
https://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2015/09/11/the-housing-court-and-you-lorain-part-one/

Let us first get some housekeeping out-of-the-way!

This was my third time attending the proceedings. It is punishment in and of itself having to sit in a stuffy, airless room with people coughing, hacking, sneezing and other odoriferous issues , stacked like sardines in a can. Word of advice don’t try fanning oneself you will get more than a fresh breeze
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source Obit

source Obit

To be fair, those that haven’t got a seat are allowed to go and wait in one of the other courtrooms until their case is called . I think if Warren Finkel, the chief architect of Lorain City Hall, wasn’t already deceased he should be fined for poor design at the very least. Each time I have attended there has been a large number of people sometimes 90 people on the docket , hopefully I have just been unlucky.

The other issue, frustrating to all, including Magistrate Cook ,was the number of times the software went “walk about” or the computer glitched- 4 times by my reckoning in 2 hours.

Purely from the standpoint of an observer, and I may be under a misconception here,it looks to me as if the defendants who have an attorney present go first on the docket.

The people who have abated their issues seem to come next .I am pleased to say there were, on all three times I attended, a great many people who had abated their issues , the system seems to be working in that regard.

Apparently , abating issues does not save you from “Court Costs”. The mere fact the city had to go through the paperwork, sending out for inspections and going through the process( even if your violations were now abated) doesn’t save you from court costs. That is, unless the city has had their own issues- ( that happened more than once every one of those court dates- imho too frequently ) My first day in court August 12th had Magistrate Cook admonishing the Prosecutors office with ” sloppy work”.


NOTE: A word to the wise if you get a notice from the Building Dept with regard to violations , take care of them , let them know you will take care of them in writing – ( get that all important paper trail) . In case you end up in Housing Court

1. If you have abated your issues- according to the Prosecutor- you then sign the document electronically as does the Prosecutor and you go across the hall with your paperwork and pay the court costs

If you haven’t abated – you have three choices, Not Guilty as which time you are set either for a pre- trial or a bench trial and choose a date in the future ( this also gives you more time to abate your issues before your next appearance) NOTEI have been told every time this happens the Building Dept has to once again re inspect the property again and may be required to appoint an attorney for you ( the City of Lorain that is)

2. No Contest which means you didn’t admit guilt but then again you don’t disagree- This ends up with a fine and court costs -to be paid across the hall

3. Guilty– same as above- the highest amount fined was $250 plus costs

If there are circumstances in your life where there are problems with taking care of the issues – contact the Building Dept, explain the problems and put it writing with a projected date you will be able to adhere and after you have finished call for a re-inspection and get the paper work the violations were abated .

Keep that paper trail, mistakes can and have happened.

Don’t wait until you are summoned to court because you will face a probably 3 hour punishment of sitting in that claustrophobic courtroom and I am sure the Building Dept. employees don’t enjoy sitting there session after session either .
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Garage Sales BewarePeople of Lorain YOU HAVE TO GET A PERMIT FOR A GARAGE SALE- I WAS TOLD THEY WERE FREE- BUT IF YOU DON’T GET ONE – YOU WILL BE OUT OF POCKET – FINE PLUS COURT COSTS


Magistrate Cook, is very personable and runs a fairly relaxed courtroom. I am not sure how I feel about that- one the one hand it did break the ordeal of having to sit there generally listening to procedure and helped with the tension. He is charming, concerned , empathetic, patient , has a sense of humour and usually deferring to the Prosecutor as to fines etc. A great deal of the defendants were less than knowledgable as to the process and it seemed he took that into consideration. Magistrate Cook certainly is not Judge Raymond Pianka

Source   Scott Shaw, The Plain Dealer

Source Scott Shaw, The Plain Dealer

Cleveland Housing Court Judge Raymond Pianka is ratcheting up the costs for absentee property owners who spread the damage from the foreclosure crisis. They will have to pay neighbors for economic losses caused by their neglect. http://blog.cleveland.com/metro/2010/08/cleveland_housing_judge_requir.html

BUT on the other hand this chatty chat does somewhat cheapen the due process and personally I would like to have seen a less obliging courtroom in some of the cases I witnessed, but maybe that is just me who is used to the British Courtrooms where calling out compliments and chat at least on two occasions from those waiting would have been seen as disrespectful to the process of law.

Magistrate Cook, did make it quite clear YOU not your spouse has to attend court when summoned , unless of course you have an attorney speaking on your behalf – However, the two that did feel his wrath were not penalized due to their “names not being accurate on the paperwork “ in the first place!

My trip to the court on October 21st was due to the fact Kaja Holdings were up before the bench one more – Readers will remember Kaja Holdings
https://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2015/09/17/the-follow-up-a-tale-of-two-houses-city-council-loraine/
Kaja Holdings Lorain
However apparently their attorney Lei Jaing is no longer acting for them and a new attorney is in place therefore a continuance until December 9th, these properties have been in the hopper now for how many months- since the first of the year on some of them – ( the beginning of the process)

All was not lost because there were one or two people I recognized from previous blog posts on my mega landlords and their impact on our neighborhoods.
1st up Gustav Krause POS foreclosure
1621v E.36th Street- 1621 gustav

but we know Gustav Krause and his LLC -FGSK PROPERTIES LLC of old from the September 2012 post, before the death of George Schneider.

Gustav Krause looks to own 12 parcels and the tax bills are sent to a PO Box number 395 as well- along with property owners of David W Carter/ Red’s All American Recycling fame.

https://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2014/09/20/george-schneider-a-property-legacy-what-now/

And I had my issues with Judge Mihok and leniency that same September 2012
George Schneider (Appeal)ing Properties- or where’s the judgement? Pity the system didn’t do something when they had the chance because we would be left with the mess we have now
https://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2012/09/12/george-schneider-appealing-properties-or-wheres-the-judgement/

https://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2012/09/07/who-holds-the-key-george-schneider-david-carter-gustav-krause/

Imagine my interest when another landlord – multi property owner and holder of “thatwoman blog fame” Jerrod Biebrick
https://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2012/12/08/trash-to-the-treasurey-time-to-pay-for-your-garbage/
http://chronicle.northcoastnow.com/2015/03/30/lorain-county-habitat-humanity-seeking-new-home/
Biebrick, owner of Patriot Property Management, said he owns about 80 rental properties in Lorain and has been buying building materials at the store for two or three years.
Landlording in Lorain is a big business ( Housing Choice Vouchers alone)
https://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2014/08/13/freedom-of-speech-usa-really-pt-4/

For instance according to Ms. Carter of the LMHA
“housing choice vouchers alone pump 1.4 MILLION A MONTH
into Lorain County but The City of Lorain gets 64% of that money EVERY MONTH or approximately $900,000.00 PER MONTH COMES INTO THE CITY OF LORAIN-!!!

and Mr. Biebrick apart from his 80 properties certainly has a plethora of LLC’s
Biebrick LLC
A quick check on just 4 of Biebrick’s many properties he owes on just those 4
over $23,000 dollars – I would hate to see what his tax bill is like on all 80 odd- I went through picking out randomly and every one had taxes owed that I checked – including the one for which he had to appear

4095 Laurel
Annual Real Estate Tax: $908.54
Current Special Assessments: $0.00
Delinquent Special Assessments : $0.00
Unpaid Taxes: $2,105.41
Full Year Tax(includes any unpaid taxes & special assessments): $3,196.89
Total Taxes Paid to Date: $0.00

4332 Laurel
LaurelPatriot
Annual Real Estate Tax: $260.06
Current Special Assessments: $0.00
Delinquent Special Assessments : $412.14
Unpaid Taxes: $2,957.42
Full Year Tax(includes any unpaid taxes & special assessments): $3,737.32

Those names just keep cropping up and unlike most of the people who were homeowners, some having no clue how the process works these multi- property owners have appeared before and KNOW the system– the excuse of “didn’t know” and the “post office is at fault” excuse left one wondering what would have happened in Judge Pianka’s courtroom

Last up was a Mr. Dessie Cheers– he had sat there right from the beginning and seemed to have at least 5 separate issues on his properties and it seems he has more than building violations!

According to the Auditors site his property of 419, Kentucky , 1530 Fillmore, and 1538 Fillmore he owes a cumulative amount of $19,588.04 in unpaid property taxes, that is not the case on his “own home” – just saying- this court of public opinion finds this “IFFY”

419 Kentucky

419 Kentucky

Annual Real Estate Tax: $1,186.76
Current Special Assessments: $0.00
Delinquent Special Assessments : $1,137.02
Unpaid Taxes: $5,152.10
Full Year Tax(includes any unpaid taxes & special assessments): $7,785.61
Total Taxes Paid to Date: $0.00
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1530 Fillmore
Annual Real Estate Tax: $1,223.06
Current Special Assessments: $306.00
Delinquent Special Assessments : $375.89
Unpaid Taxes: $4,037.42
Full Year Tax(includes any unpaid taxes & special assessments): $6,220.21
Total Taxes Paid to Date: $0.00

1538 Fillmore

1538 fillmores
Annual Real Estate Tax: $867.16
Current Special Assessments: $306.00
Delinquent Special Assessments : $993.91
Unpaid Taxes: $3,196.81
Full Year Tax(includes any unpaid taxes & special assessments): $5,582.11
Total Taxes Paid to Date: $0.00

Something very wrong here Lorain-

To Be Continued…………

October 22, 2015 at 4:08 pm 4 comments

The Dunce’s Cap- green, yellow, red – singling out the children

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It has been many years since I watched my little 2nd grade daughter stand across the street , tears falling down her cheeks, holding her tummy as she lined up to go into Irving School.
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Holding my hand up with total honesty, I hated the fact that every day of the week for months I had to turn my children over to the personality , thoughts and teaching ability of people who were comparative strangers. I breathed a sigh of relief when K- 12 was over and done with.

The reason my little girl was so upset was her 2nd grade teacher, a person who delighted apparently in sending a message to the class by “accidently” getting their hair caught in her bracelets among other pseudo teaching techniques such as pinching .
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My little girl was petrified, although she hadn’t had her hair caught, the threat was there as it happened to her little friends. This fear manifested itself physically , tests ( and some gastric tests that were not pleasant for the child or her mother ) were done. Discussion with the pediatrician turned up the child’s fear. Obviously , I contacted other mothers and two of us went to the principal, who naturally supported the “bracelet /bangle woman” .

” Oh! don’t read too much into this , children exaggerate, get things wrong, after all they are only six and seven ….. I will talk to the teacher yada…. yada…. yada .”


Not to be fobbed off, and since it was still warm weather, I stood under the open window of the classroom to hear and see for myself the teaching of this “bangle batterer” . The children weren’t exaggerating . And I, therefore, dealt with the situation, but I can still see that little face on those horrific school mornings .

Now, of course, discussions with friends, who too, have little grandchildren (we grandmothers tend to chat about our perfect grandchildren) and this green- yellow -red “card” or “table” way of teaching . I suppose this is the latest version of the dunce cap
dunce
http://spdrdng.com/posts/dunces-corner-banned-but-how-did-it-all-start

So placing pupils in Dunce’s corner could breach a pupil’s human rights, say councils. This has been used as a punishment in schools since Victorian times. But the original purpose behind ‘Dunces’ was to help pupil to learn better.

In the 13th century, a Franciscan monk and philosopher, John Duns Scotus, developed a ‘duns cap’ to be worn by children who needed something to help them focus. Detractors of Scotus made fun of the cap. Over time the ‘dunce’s cap’ came to be associated with ‘stupid’ children, and was eventually misunderstood and used to stigmatise and make fun of such children

OH! I know from whence I speak- 1st day of school – 4 years old -taken from my nice warm home environment to a large classroom with desks- children crying . I still remember, over a half a century later, being singled out, made to sit on a stool in the corner ( no cap) as an example of bad behavior because I couldn’t stop crying. Miss Waters ( probably dead by now) was forever burned into my brain and I felt the pain of stigma and shame for the first time. A cuddle of understanding would’ve worked wonders or even a tissue , a positive distraction may have done the trick- but sitting on a high, hard, uncomfortable stool as an example to others what they would suffer was not the way to get a 4 year old to stop crying. roxeth manor

end of caning

My elementary school of the day and the school governors did not frown upon corporal punishment. The Head Master strolled the playgrounds with his cane- and not to help him walk – it was his caning stick for little back sides and or hands – and for the girls- a leather slipper.
caning

The end of caning and the slipper didn’t come into play in Britain until 1981 http://www.corpun.com/uksc8101.htm

Evening Standard, London, 30 January 1981The last day of the cane — beaten at last

And it wasn’t just England where the teachers wrath could be felt- Canada – New Brunswick was my next “schooling” experience- there you were controlled with the strap for misbehaving – this was not banned until 2004!

strap

The strap has also been used on minors in reformatories and in schools. The latter was particularly prevalent in Canada, applied to the student’s hand, until abolished in 2004, but there, in modern times at least, it was generally made of canvas/rubber rather than leather.

The other recommended teaching tool in Canada was the “shame basket” not having done anything worthy of the strap or paddle ( the paddle being given by the principal in the library) whereas the strap was dished out in the classroom.

Ah! Miss Green( also probably dead) you will live on in my memory- not for being a great teacher- but for that strap hitting my palms and the look on your face

No ! the shaming wastebasket stood next to the teacher’s desk. The wastebasket made of metal and quite large became the receptacle, not of papers and trash, but children who were thought less than perfect. You had to stand in the waste basket for the rest of the lesson – you are a “waste of space” lesson to be learned. I spent many an afternoon standing in the basket for “questioning” Miss Green.


And now same principle, different teaching tools, the green , yellow, red- Ok! I get it teachers need tools for behaviors – but who really sees the shaming of yellow and the punishment of red – the other little 5-6-7 year olds?

Are you telling me a professional who has obviously has been through the courses of “How to Teach” and has the diploma and student loans to prove their education- has to resort to shaming to get their point across? Ultimately, that is what it is shaming – whether it is a board with marked cards or tables at which the child has to sit for a predetermined length of time .

http://fairydustteaching.com/2011/01/no-more-green-light-yellow-light-red/

No More Green Light, Yellow Light, Red Light Behavior Management Plan!
The Safe Keeper System

I have tried the famous Red Light Classroom Management plan that is used in classrooms across America. (Every child begins each day on a green light. Certain behaviors and choices will change their light to yellow or red. Usually, yellow and red lights had consequences attached to them like loss of recess and so forth.) As a behavior management tool, it simply did not work in helping children learn to make better choices. It did succeed in providing consequences for misbehaving children – an important fact! But those same children kept “misbehaving.” It was not teaching them new skills.

There has to be a better way because if you are expecting “peer pressure” to work for you – I suggest you look at what is happening in this country – the more despicable the behavior the more people are “following” .

Bear in mind little ones in kindergarten, 1st , 2nd and even third grade don’t have agendas – they are trying to learn and they all learn at a different pace – they aren’t your enemy – they are in your care – little sponge like minds soaking in every day’s experiences- be careful what you do to that little person and the experiences you teach .

If you have a problem “call home”, email or send a note to the parent, stop categorizing these little ones – they need reading , writing and arithmetic, not being stigmatized.

The best teachers I had, were not of the punishing kind, they found my strengths and strengthened my weaknesses.

Thanks Miss Calder/ Mrs. McKay , Mr. Laidlaw and Mr. Lee because of you I Blog!!! Oh! yes, and I had Miss Green for Grammar – now all is explained !!!! Don’t get me started about “core math” being a product of the horrendous experimental “New Math in Canada ”
https://cms.math.ca/Events/CSMF2003/panel/oshea.pdf
Spines_of_New_Math_paperbacks_from_1960s

The name is commonly given to a set of teaching practices introduced in the U.S. shortly after the Sputnik crisis, in order to boost science education and mathematical skill in the population, so that the intellectual threat of Soviet engineers, reputedly highly skilled mathematicians, could be met.
Topics introduced in the New Math include modular arithmetic, algebraic inequalities, bases other than 10, matrices, symbolic logic, Boolean algebra, and abstract algebra These topics have been greatly de-emphasized or eliminated in US elementary schools and high schools curricula since the 1960s.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/New_Math

October 15, 2015 at 3:45 pm 10 comments

“Drop the Dead Donkey” are we still laughing?

Oscar Wilde, who opined in his 1889 essay The Decay of Lying that, “Life imitates Art far more than Art imitates Life! ( with the exception of Drop the Dead Donkey !!!

Since I am addicted to Acorn TV , https://signup.acorn.tv/
I spend more time than would be thought healthy in front of the television, overdosing on English programming. I noticed one of the series was leaving the line-up. I hadn’t head of it , yet it had an 8 year run in the UK “Drop the Dead Donkey” – I have to wonder whether it was thought unsuitable for American viewing at the time , didn’t travel well in the 1990’s, – too close to the truth perhaps?

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Drop_the_Dead_Donkey

Drop the Dead Donkey is a situation comedy that first aired on Channel 4 in the United Kingdom between 1990 and 1998. It is set in the offices of “GlobeLink News”, a fictional TV news company. Recorded close to transmission, it made use of contemporary news events to give the programme a greater sense of realism. It was created by Andy Hamilton and Guy Jenkin. The series had an ensemble cast, making stars of Haydn Gwynne, Stephen Tompkinson and Neil Pearson.

The series began with the acquisition of GlobeLink by media mogul Sir Roysten Merchant, an allusion to either Robert Maxwell or Rupert Murdoch. Indeed, Andy Hamilton and Guy Jenkin note on their DVDs that it was fortunate for their libel lawyers that the two men shared the same initials. The series is mostly based on the ongoing battle between the staff of GlobeLink, led by editor George Dent, as they try to maintain the company as a serious news organisation, and Sir Roysten’s right-hand man Gus Hedges, trying to make the show more sensationalist and suppress stories that might harm Sir Roysten’s business empire.

dam dayresI started my viewing and yes, the show which started in 1990 was a bit dated. I found it fascinating to see Steven Tompkinson ( Father Clifford of Ballykiss Angel and ( DCI Banks) (PBS) as a very young actor portraying Damien Day the ambitious ,unethical reporter .
Yes, some of the comedy was a little forced and some of Tompkinson’s comedic timing a little off in these early episodes but my focus was of the “news events of the time”

http://www.theguardian.com/culture/2015/apr/13/how-we-made-drop-the-dead-donkey-andy-hamilton-robert-Duncan

Twenty five years ago – the subject matter topical of its day – of course a lot of the news that was happening at the time I recalled, as I went down through media memory lane.
The Invasion of Kuwait in 1990
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Timeline_of_the_Gulf_War
we nervously watched our nightly news CNN and Peter Arnett giving us the night camera action and reporting controversy

Arnett_Rio

His {Peter Arnett} reports on civilian damage caused by the bombing were not received well by the coalition war administration, who by their constant use of terms like “smart bombs” and “surgical precision” had tried to project an image that civilian casualties would be at a minimum. White House sources would later state that Arnett was being used as a tool for Iraqi disinformation and CNN received a letter from 34 Members of the United States Congress accusing Arnett of “unpatriotic journalism”.

Who would have thought that 25 years later we would still be embroiled in the middle east mess and the area would still be on our nightly news feed. .

Terrorism and the response of the media???? – Oh yes! that is still happening

The made up stories by the “top reporter/ anchor “??? – Yes! that too still happens
Brian-Williams-of-_3191233e

The first fiction you’re probably familiar with. Last winter, Williams was caught for having repeated a tall tale about his experiences embedded with U.S. troops on a helicopter in the 2003 Iraq War. NBC removed him from the newscast and conducted an internal investigation; according to the announcement, the network found other (unspecified) examples of Williams’ “inaccurate statements,” most of them not on NBC News but “on late-night programs and during public appearances.”http://time.com/3926988/brian-williams-nbc-fired-new-show/

and not just in America
pet williams

http://www.thecivilian.co.nz/peter-williams-gets-bored-of-reading-screens-starts-making-news-up/
http://www.3news.co.nz/nznews/peter-williams-apologises-2014022805#axzz3nuIXSw00

The talking heads of news delivery 1990


yes they are still with us they have become the satire

hemmer-maccallum

Charles and Camilla and his wanting to be a tampon

source not found

source not found

The tape’s notoriety was due to Prince Charles’s wistful remark that he’d like to be Camilla’s ”tampon”, to which she replied: ”You are a complete idiot … Oh, what a wonderful idea.” http://www.smh.com.au/world/the-original-hack-20110730-1i5k4.html#ixzz3nuzM9bpF
Follow us: @smh on Twitter | sydneymorningherald on Facebook

as his conversations were hacked???? –

Oh yes…. a recent happening again

Did the News of the World scandal have its unsavoury beginnings in Camillagate, the phone-tapping ”scoop” that scandalised the royal family 18 years ago?

hillary
The Clintons, and what jobs they would be give? How Hillary wanted to run Washington and had her heart set on the Presidency ( not a lot has changed there the ;) A Bush Presidency??? It seems we are still in that familiar loop; older faces and now the brother faces.

Source   Wikipedia

Source Wikipedia


Mega millionaires like the disgraced Robert Maxwell and his hat in the political media and of course Rupert Murdoch oh yes! he and another mega millionaire still frothing at the mouth connection
trump
The relatively low-key Murdoch has long been turned off by Trump’s braggadocio. Photo: Reuters
Read more: http://www.smh.com.au/world/us-election/donald-trump-surges-democrats-cheer-20150702-gi35kn.html#ixzz3nuHD3XMX

However, just today we find the headline News on BBC and the Media Mogul Rupert Murdoch
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rupert_Murdoch” holding forth on Twitter ( twitter = twits)

Media mogul Rupert Murdoch has sent a tweet suggesting President Barack Obama is not a “real black president”.

 (Official White House Photo by Pete Souza)

(Official White House Photo by Pete Souza)

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In tweets praising Republican candidate Ben Carson, Mr Murdoch wrote: “Ben and Candy Carson terrific. What about a real black President who can properly address the racial divide?”

http://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-34472397

One thing though, Gus- a wanna be gobbledygook Americanized salacious Chief Executive – making all the right political noises and over the top political correctness- – not much has changed in those 25 years either”

The unctuous Chief Executive of the company, and yes-man to Sir Roysten Merchant and an unwavering supporter of then Conservative Prime Minister John Major. A management stereotype, complete with clichés and clumsy metaphors, he swiftly transforms GlobeLink from a serious news network to a ratings-chasing tabloid channel

Ironically in a couple of shots in the 1990-1 series Gus had a above his desk in his office a photo of the twin towers. As I looked at that scene, who could have known those towers would 11 years later become a symbol of terror ……

Not much has changed it seems in the topical comedic world of our news and who gets the last laugh????

by Chris Ritchey

by Chris Ritchey

October 8, 2015 at 1:36 pm Leave a comment

The Housing Tale- a history- not a mystery- just bank business

meter oh boy

My phone rang this morning from US Bank NA https://www.usbank.com/ They have written twice to Charleston Village Society thinking we were a Home Owners Association.

USB they were following up on 1721 W 12th Street
172112

According to the Lorain County Auditor’s Site this property transferred to them under Sheriff’s Deed January 5th 2015


Transfer History – 2015000025
Sale Date Sale Amount Conveyance/Exempt Number of Parcels
1/5/2015 $22,000 2015000025 1
Parcel Grantor Grantee
0202028107009 HAGWOOD HERBERT M JR & HALSTEAD HOLLY M US BANK NATIONAL ASSOCIATION


red flag
Not a problem there but the red flag went up once more because I had received a letter before ,from this bank, thinking we were a Homeowners Association for 329 Hamilton ah yes 329 Hamilton.

The other property mentioned as being under Vision Property Management AKA Kaja Holdings II ( of the many roman numerals association with Kaja ) and
RVFM II SERIES LLC ( most worrying all these roman numeral LLCs)-
https://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2015/09/11/the-housing-court-and-you-lorain-part-one/

329ham
This property was also a Sheriff’s Deed and according to the Auditors site was purchased back for $40,000 – and in my humble opinion was another bank dump for $4,355 WITHOUT POINT OF SALE – The obligatory hand-written sign RENT TO BUY went up AND YES THERE ARE PEOPLE NOW LIVING THERE !

https://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2015/09/17/the-follow-up-a-tale-of-two-houses-city-council-loraine/

Sale Date Sale Amount Conveyance/Exempt Number of Parcels
11/17/2014 $4,355 2014005153 1
Parcel Grantor Grantee
0201006108004 US BANK NA TRUSTEE RVFM 11 SERIES LLC


This property was coming up before Lorain’s Housing Court for No Certificate of Inspection ( aka POS) – outcome ?????????

When the US BANK NA phoned this morning – September 24th- I stated the property at 1721 W 12th was NOT in Charleston Village Society’s area and said:

“Are you selling this property on?”

USB:
I really can’t say I am just clearing any paperwork with the property

Oh well before you do “sell on” or transfer to a Property Management company for a percentage of the properties worth you should be aware there is a Certificate of Inspection requirement in Lorain- since January 1st 2014- Your bank neglected to follow through on that aspect for your property at 329 Hamilton . You might want to red flag your properties in Lorain as needing a Certificate of Inspection.


USB- Oh I will make a note of it

red flag
And Lorain might want to flag their properties, as every Lorain property that I clicked upon of the 116 owned by US Bank NA went back to them under Sheriffs Deed-

Granted it was a random search but what are the odds the majority of those properties are similar Sheriffs Deeds? Even the $100,000 5098 AVON BELDEN RD NORTH RIDGEVILLE OH 44039.

Elyria, you might want to check there are a plethora in your community – Hopefully they won’t be dumped – I can tell you from years of experience those type of sales do not “help ” the worth of housing stock in the neighborhood…..
https://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2012/07/11/banks-banking-on-lorain-business-of-blight-devaluing-lorain/

The banks have been bailed out once for poor business practices “Banking and Sub Prime 2008- . I, for one, do not want to keep suffering for their poor mortgage decisions . Hopefully US Bank NA gets the message that they have to follow the laws of Lorain! Any Bets????

red flag
US Banksc

September 24, 2015 at 3:33 pm Leave a comment

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